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From Screaming Queens to Love of Showgirls: San Francisco's LGBT Film Fest Has Many Noteworthy Documentaries

By Kevin M.  Thomas, @ReelKev

“Camp Chaos” Matthew Camp

“Camp Chaos” Matthew Camp


Frameline, San Francisco's long running LGBT film festival through June 30, has many noteworthy documentaries that should be checked out.
While it would be impossible to see all of the movies at Frameline (but I do try), here's a sample of some of the top documentaries.

"For They Know Not What They Do" is one of the best crafted documentaries I have ever seen and it succinctly covers a lot of ground with its stories of religion and being gay. The movie weaves together several tales of coming out to a religious family and shares the highs and some of the lows that will ripe your heart out. A lot of documentaries have great stories to tell and we forgive them for inferior production qualities. But this movie hits the mark on every level - from point of view to cinematography. This should be a contender for Best Documentary at the Oscars. It's that good.

"Queering the Script" is quite thought provoking. On the one side, it shows how fandom can support and help make a TV show a success and all-the-while showing how bonding over a show can lead to long term friendship and love. On the other hand, it enlightens us that while LGBT people were the characters de jour one year, adding many diverse characters to mainstream TV. But then, suddenly in one year they killed off most of the lesbians, creating a backlash among the lesbian community, causing heated discussions in the TV community and all sparked by a hashtag campaign - #buryyourgays.  Very informative and definitely worth a screening.

“You Don’t Know Nomi”

“You Don’t Know Nomi”

"You Don't Nomi" is as fun and creative as the film's title. This is behind-the-scenes story of "Showgirls," the cult classic film that is in about every gay man's repertoire of movies to screen. It shows the film's underwhelming premiere, in which it flopped and, after multiple critics panned it, it  won many Razzie Awards for the worst film. Then, as the years pass, it's no longer taken so seriously and, thanks to support from its fans, mostly the gay community, a cult classic is born. Interviewees include local drag icon Peaches Christ who embraced the movie from the beginning and screened it annually for nearly 20 years and Bay Area resident April Kidwell, who starred in the Off-Broadway and traveling production of the musical of "Showgirls."  After screening, we will all know Nomi.


"Making Montgomery Clift" had more information then I thought I'd learn, considering I am friends with one of his relatives. But Robert Clift shares moments of Montgomery's life, thanks to old recordings, photographs and notes Robert's father (Montgomery's brother) had kept and maintained for years.

"Scream, Queen! My Nightmare on Elm Street" is a surprise to me - and surprises make for good movies. I was never a fan of the "Nightmare" movie so I didn't see any of the sequels. Well, I never knew of all of the gay subtext in Part 2 including shower scenes and S&M! This certainly makes me want to check this out. But behind the scenes, star Mark Patton's career was very much hurt by the film as gay characters (and actors) weren't the stars of big budget films in the mid-1980s. Check out the film as Patton does what he can to overcome the stigma that followed.

"Gay Chorus Deep South" is much more uplifting then I thought it would be. The San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus go to the Bible belt, to where many of the members of the chorus are from before they moved to the Bay Area. Performing at churches and reuniting with Baptist relatives, one would think there would be more drama and hate. But the movie shows that sometimes, a little enlightening is all one needs to accept and respect.

“Mr. Leather”

“Mr. Leather”

"Mr. Leather" is one of the many examples of how the leather community is just that: a community. This movie showcases Brazil's very first Mr. Leather competition and how, although a competition, there's a sense of family among the contenders and how they support each other.

"Fabulous" is fabulous! Lasseindra Ninja leaves her home in French Guiana as a man and comes back as a woman. Besides a positive attitude about herself, she comes back complete with skills as a vogue dancer and ready to support and education a troupe of young people who are looking for a place to be accepted and to thrive. Some of their tales are heart wrenching but they learn to leave them behind on the dance floor.

“Thanks to Hank”

“Thanks to Hank”

"Thanks to Hank" is a local SF movie exploring the life and work of Hank Wilson. Wilson is one of the pioneers for LGBT activism and he fought for our rights with a smile and a cool head. While many of us take for granted the progress we've made, this movie pays tribute to a man that stood up for us and did it for equality.

"Camp Chaos" is listed as an episodic entry but it's worth mentioning here. It takes the actor from "Getting Go: the Go Doc Project" (from Frameline37) and follows him as he talks and meets up with other men through gay sex apps. Camp recreates many of his sexual encounters he had...vividly and explicitly. This movies is hot and sexual and some might deem a well photographed porn movie.

"Sid & Judy" is a movie that many gay men would love to see. Me too. But no screening of the story of the Judy Garland and Sid Luft marriage.

To get tickets and check out screening times, go to www.frameline.org.

@FramelineFest #Frameline43 #GayFilmFestival #GayDocumentary #LGBTFilmFest #BuryYourGays








San Francisco's Frameline Fest Offers a Wide Range of LGBT Narrative Features

By Kevin M. Thomas, @ReelKev

“End of the Century”

“End of the Century”

Frameline, San Francisco's LGBT film festival, begins its 43rd event beginning June 20, 2019.
As the oldest LGBT festival, Frameline certainly isn't showing its age.
While it would be impossible to catch every film prior to the festival beginning (but I did try), here's a sampling of some of the noteworthy narrative features playing at Frameline. There may be other equally impressive titles not mentioned here but I either didn't have time or access to screen them. But I will update this blog should I have new information to report.


"The Garden Left Behind" is the best picture of the many I've seen in preparing for the festival. Well written, acted and directed, this movie is not only real and heartbreaking, but it's very topical. Tina (a breakout performance by Carlie Guevara) is a pre-op trans woman earning money driving a cab. As she goes to schedule the operation, complications (not limited to her being an undocumented citizen) arise. Besides the lead's bravura performance, the entire cast makes for a great ensemble under Flavio Alves' direction (and from a screenplay he co-wrote). It also deals with violence against trans people, which unfortunately is in today's headlines every day.


"Benjamin" is quite the quirky little film due to its title character. Asperger or just millennial, Benjamin is trying to follow-up with his ultra-successful first film and isn't sure if he's sophomore effort will live up to its audience expectations. To complicate matters, while he's trying to finish his film, he finds a love interest in the lead singer of a band. Sweet and endearing, this movie is a must-see, especially thanks to the drool performance of Colin Morgan and his spot on delivery of dynamic dialog.


"Before You Know It" takes quirky to a new extreme. The Gurner sisters take their love for theatre home. Literally. They live about a theatre with their once-famous dad (Mandy Patinkin). While they struggle to makes ends meet with their artsy, non-attended shows, they learn they have a famous soap opera mother (an over-the-top Judith Light). The chemistry between the sisters seems real as the director (Hannah Pearl Utt) and writer (Jen Tullock) play the sisters and likely are real life friends. I do wish, while it's a tiny topic, they fleshed out Utt's lesbian character a tad more with more of her sexuality included on screen. Sure it's a story about the family and being lesbian isn't even part of the plot. But if you're five minutes late to the movie, you wouldn't even know she was a lesbian.


Quirky seems to be a theme here as "Cubby" can be described as just that. Director/writer/star Mark Blane makes it clear from the beginning that this is based upon his life as his character's name is Mark Nabel which is awfully close to his own. This is a fish out of water story - but he doesn't know it! A young Midwestern man decides to move to New York and his playful, innocent outlook is as simple-minded as the children he babysitting.

“Guest Artist”

“Guest Artist”


Big stars show up in many of these films and "Guest Artist" is no exception. Jeff Daniels plays a famous playwright who is down on his luck so he takes his latest play - and attitude - and heads off to Michigan. Daniels gives a masterful performance in a movie he also wrote.


"More Beautiful for Having Been Broken" offers puzzle pieces of a story that sometimes seem not to be the right fit, but by the end of this lesbian-themed film, all the pieces meld together, connecting all the loose ends.

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"Sell By" is a great millennial-ish love story between an artist (Scott Evans) who mostly does the work for a famed artist who takes credit for his work and a fashion stylist (Augustus Prew) who can't even eat breakfast with putting it on Instagram. A good movie to show compromise in a relationship that shows that even picture-perfect romances have blurred edges.


"Simple Wedding" has all the qualities to become a mainstream hit. Our lead character straight Nousha (Tara Grammy) has her challenges of being an independent woman who is pressured by her Persian family to find a nice Persian man to marry. She does find a man but he's white and bisexual. A fun tale in trying to get her parents on board to respect her real love instead of arranged marriage, the movie also features a cute subplot featuring Rita Wilson.


"Stray Dolls" seems to be another immigrant story as Riz (Geetanjali Thapa) comes to the US from India. But instead, while she has the atypical immigrant job as a maid, she encounters a spirited young woman who quotes Dolly Parton and a sassy performance from Cynthia Nixon as Riz' boss. Gritty and fun - all rolled into one.

"End of the Century" has one of the best and most interesting opening sequences: it's practically silent. We view Barcelona through the eyes of Ocha (Juan Barberini) where we see what he sees and, without the interaction of others, no dialog.  At some point, Ocha finds someone to talk to and the movie is still captivating as we see his relationship with women, his health and men he picks up.


"Fireflies" is a great character study of an Iranian man who flees to Mexico to avoid persecution for being gay. While doing what he can to survive, he still dreams of a better life and tries to make this happen. Well acted by sexy lead Arash Marandi.


At first, I didn't think I was going to find any standout lesbian features and then I found "Carmen & Lola." A great glimpse into the treatment of lesbians and women in general in the machismo Spanish world. This movie of a developing relationship with two teens, not only shows the struggles women have as they are forced to be subservient but it boasts two Oscar-level performances from Lola's parents, played by Moreno Borja and Rafaela Leon.


"Monsters." is the story of a married couple who on the surface seems to be an idyllic couple but, as we see a day in each of their lives, there may be troubles bubbling below the surface. A very interesting story told a la he said/she said that unfolds with secrets and understanding.

“Tehran: City of Love”

“Tehran: City of Love”


"Tehran: City of Love" is a magnificent blend of three tales of love and desire - a receptionist at a beauty clinic with self-esteem issues (Forough Ghajabagli) who catfishes men and sets up meetings and sits at a distance table to drool to a former bodybuilder/personal trainer (Amir Hessam Bakhtiari) who likely has desires for his male client but tough to act on it in the Middle East and a religious singer (Mehdi Saki) who wants more out of his career and life. This movie from writer/director Ali Jaberansari mixes the three stories together and finding great ways to weave them together.


"This is Not Berlin" is the perfect example of what trouble teens can get into simply because they're bored. This tale from Mexico gives an honest look at coming out and coming of age - all the while being seduced by gay clubs, drugs and rock and roll.


For more information on schedules and all movies, go to www.frameline.org.
#GayFilmFestival #Frameline2019 #Frameline43 @FramelineFest #LGBTFilmFestival

EP 107 Show Notes - PrEP Podcast, John Glines, TAGSPODCAST MIX and More

On Episode 107 Host Steve Rodriguez and Co-hosts Jeremy Ross Lopez and Steve Carpenter talk about the weekend's Pride festivities and scares, STI's on the rise, PrEP usage lower than expected according to Dr. Grant, Grindr hookup that turned horribly wrong and last night's hookup that won't leave.

EPISODE 107


TAGSPODCAST PRIDE MIX 2019. FOR TRACK LISTING AND HOSTS PICKS VISIT HERE


“This Drug Could End H.I.V. Why Hasn’t It?” By Hosted by Michael Barbaro

NEW YORK TIMES PODCAST about PrEP with Dr. Grant: CLICK HERE or https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/05/podcasts/the-daily/hiv-aids-truvada-prep.html


John Glines Remembered!

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Learn about John Glines and his legacy in theater including producing the original TONY winning “Torch Song Trilogy” with Harvey Fierstein: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/17/obituaries/john-glines-who-helped-bring-torch-song-to-broadway-dies-at-84.html




DOCUMENTARY: “The Lavender Scare” Following its theatrical release in New York , Los Angeles and major cities,  award-winning documentary THE LAVENDER SCARE will have its PBS premiere nationwide on June 18 at 9:00PM, re-airing throughout June on digital channels. (For more details check local listings or pbs.org)


SAN FRANCISCO: “Benjamin” - Saturday, June 22 at 7PM for Frameline Film Festival: https://www.frameline.org/festival/film-guide/benjamin


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TAGSPODCAST PRIDE MIX 2019

TAGSPODCAST Host Steve Rodriguez and Co-hosts Jeremy Ross Lopez and Steve Carpenter want to celebrate Pride Month with a special curated mix that hopefully will elicit pride and make you wanna dance. We each choice four tracks each and arranged them in no particular order other than they sounded good this way. Check out the track list below and who chose it. Happy Pride and Happy Listening!

  1. Left to My Own Devices (2001 Remastered Version) - Pet Shop Boys - Steve Rodriguez Pick

  2. Dance (Disco Heat) - Sylvester - Steve Carpenter Pick

  3. Getaway - Brand New Heavies - Steve Rodriguez Pick

  4. Creep - TLC - Jeremy Ross Lopez Pick

  5. So Be It (Cahill Club Mix) - Steve Rodriguez Pick

  6. Sex With Me - Rhianna - Jeremy Ross Lopez Pic

  7. Sissy That Walk - Rupaul - Steve Rodriguez Pick

  8. Pony - Ginuwine - Jeremy Ross Lopez Pick

  9. White Rabbit (Original Mix) - Zoned Out - Steve Carpenter Pick

  10. Proud (Division 4 & Matt Consola Remix) - Heather Small - Steve Carpenter Pick

  11. Together Again - Janet Jackson - Jeremy Ross Lopez Pick

  12. We Are Family - Sister Sledge - Steve Carpenter Pick

Show Notes, References and Links EP 96!

Thank you to all of our newest Patrons on Patreon.com/talkaboutgaysex We really appreciate you becoming a member and showing your support. It’s been a lot of fun creating the extra perks for each tier. From the “Dark & Dirty” after show to the “For Your Eyes Only” images plus more. You can expect some new perks, Special Offers for our 100th Episode plus an upcoming “Favorite Sexy Things” and “Daily Inspirations” coming out very soon! Consider becoming a member and join the fun!

RFTCA - Research Foundation to Cure AIDS and latest findings:

https://www.researchfoundationtocureaids.org/Cure/

NAKED PARTY - FCGN - Fuck Clothes Go Naked

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80’s or 90’s Porn Song mentioned by Steve Carpenter



Show Notes, References and Links from EP 95!

EPISODE 95

In Episode 95, I referenced the new film about the late artist, Robert Mapplethorpe simply entitled, MAPPLETHORE. It’s in initial theaters now and rolling out into cities across the country throughout April.

Why should you see this? Mapplethorpe was a pioneer as an artist creating some of the most provocative photography that said more about his eye for beauty, lines, perception, race and sexuality to name a few. I prefer the documentary, “Mapplethorpe: Look at the Pictures” as a better, more in depth look at the artist and what charged the man, but MAPPLETHORPE is worth seeing especially as we approach the 50th anniversary of Stonewall and celebrate all the incredible figures that have come before, remain and those undiscovered.

MAPPLETHORPE Schedule

MAPPLETHORPE Schedule

If you come to NYC check out the exhibit at The Guggenheim of Mapplethorpe. IMPLICIT INTENTIONS: MAPPLETHORE NOW: January 25 - July 10, 2019; July 24, 2019 - January 5, 2020. Link: https://www.guggenheim.org/exhibition/mapplethorpe?gclid=CjwKCAjwycfkBRAFEiwAnLX5IRJVLYf2leF5XVZJ5wSAHuu4db9p_i5Ps4SC1ZIiIJ6Q2VwwT9M6ohoCxGQQAvD_BwE

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BECOME A PATRON and this week at THE DIVA and THE VIRGIN level you will get my latest naked image shot by Premiere Guest, Gregory Nalbone. Here’s a preview above and link below.

NEW SERIES: “Interested In”

Steve Carpenter mentioned a new gay tv show on the new Dek Koo outlet entitled “Interested In”. Here’s a link to the site: https://www.dekkoo.com/interested-in?fbclid=IwAR0fCztm7j-NDABCiDrfCgpRAB-1MxFBgxP3Fa1YDUaLg530kkVJHKoPH2Y Described as a ‘realistic life after the closet’. Here’s an article on Huff Post: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/interested-in-gay-series-dekkoo_n_5c780d60e4b010e7c5650dba

NAKED ATTRACTION

Here’s the link to the British TV show about the Naked dating series where 5 contestants are naked with one contestant choosing their date based on body parts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1p_LiDJAaww

CHEM SEX with Cameron Yorke from EP. 64: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-64-chem-sex-with-author-cameron-yorke/id1200953842?i=1000415557769&mt=2

Don’t forget about our 100th Episode on Wednesday, April 17 from 7-8PM EST or come to Rebar Chelsea in NYC beginning at 6:30 for all the fun. Help us celebrate 100 episodes with some special guests and a sexy night.

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